Blame Game and Personal Awareness

I believe our experiences as children shape the adults we become; it's why healthy/good parenting is so important. How we perceive life, how we love, how we cope, are learned from early life experiences.

I think it's easy to condemn our parents for how we "turned out", specifically for the unfavorable qualities we exhibit. What's not so easy to remember is that our parents are only human themselves, parenting and living out their lives based on what they've learned from their own early life experiences.  That's not to say that our parents are always justified or exempt in how they parented, but their personal predispositions make their doings more understandable.

Personal awareness is paramount here and not easy to come by.  It takes looking inward and possibly confronting certain thoughts, feelings, or traits that are uncomfortable to manage or acknowledge. Once we are aware, it becomes easier to counteract those negative effects that come from poor childhood experiences. 

Personally, I'm a huge proponent for individual therapy. I also find mindfulness and self-reflection useful tools.  It's why I started this blog in the first place 🙂

So instead of blaming anyone for how I am or how I turned out, I choose to be thankful for the opportunities to grow, learn, persevere, and make myself that much better!